THE TIME FOR ME FALLACY

Friday, July 20, 2012



This is one of those posts that some may walk away from reading saying, she is way off! She has lost her marbles, totally nuts. Now that I have your attention,let me explain....

This post now at Blueberry Cottage, come on over!

13 comments:

  1. I agree. A mother is called to be self-sacrificing to her family. And ditto on the husband taking over. If I would just leave for one hour to shop, I would have to spend an hour putting my house back in order.

    But of course it was even more so when my kids were living at home and younger. And the younger the children, the more self-sacrificing. I can remember feeling as if I was never going to be able to even brush my teeth or comb my hair when I was nursing a baby and had other children to look after. (They learned to bring books to me to read to them while I nursed).

    Now, 33 years later, if I am organizing my home, learning to can, sew a bit, and buy a few things for the house, it is because I never had time to do it before. But I still don't go off volunteering or taking any classes, because home is where my heart still is. love,andrea

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    1. Andrea,
      I am certain there is many a mother out there who is just nodding her head reading your words. You illustrate well that verse that there is indeed a season for everything:-)
      Blessings,
      Suzanne

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  2. Good morning Suzanne...interesting and thoughtful post. I love how you ended with "a time for everything" and as I am one of your older friends who has moved down the road, it is so true. I never thought I'd have time to invest in my thing as I do now. Being a mom was #2 on my list...#1 was Jim. God granted me both of those very strong wishes. I have to laugh when my grown girls walk into our home...I get flipped into "mommy mode" immediately, but what a joy! My girls and I have such a wonderful relationship and I never ever expected that. I didn't like my mother and we had a terrible relationship...God blessed me with my girls.
    I do think it's important for you to leave the home for a bit BY YOURSELF for whatever reason. That time away, a bible study, class, errands, trip to the library...anything...is just a time to refresh yourself. I do feel that women need other women in their lives, just to chat with and enjoy. It is so hard to find time when being a homemaker is such a full time job, but I think it's essential. I love being home and being a homemaker too. Our life is very different now with retirement. BUSY BUSY BUSY! Never dreamed it would be so busy but we both are thankful for our health and ability to keep up with it all, at least for now.
    So, be kind to yourself and don't feel bad about those few hours away every week.
    Much love,
    Linda

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    1. Oh, my dear Linda, if I could have picked my mama it may very well have been you!
      Love,
      Suzanne

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  3. Being a mom is one of the greatest blessings in my life. My boys are grown and married with children of their own. You never stop being a mom. Being a gramma is the reward and yet another blessing God has bestowed on me. Thanks for sharing your heart.
    blessings to you.

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    1. Your welcome Lois, thanks for stopping by and offering your encouragement!
      Blessings,
      Suzanne

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  4. Hi Suzanne,
    Very good post. Your thoughts about "area of expertise" are so true. Although sometimes my husband and I have to mix it up a little, it's just simpler and more harmonious for our family if we don't. And yes, homeschooling is hard work, but so worth it.
    Blessings,
    Kim

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    1. Hello Kim,
      I hear you! My dh and I do mix it up,but for the long haul and such I find we are just better suited to our "appointed" roles. KWIM:-)
      Blessings,
      Suzanne

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  5. Suzanne,
    I just came across your blog and love it. You won't regret homeschooling your kids. Yes it is HARD work keeping it all going. But well worth it. My two sons are 30 and 26. We homeschooled for app. 7 years and I don't regrett it at all. Enjoy your time with them.

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  6. My sewing was on the back burner for about 17 years. I sewed when my children were young enough to still take regular naps. Once we reached "school age" I was busy homeschooling and homemaking. My children are away for college now. I have plenty of time for sewing (and knitting). I did not forget the skills I had learned. I had to warm up slowly, but it didn't take too long. Now, I delight in having a new blouse or shirt ready for my kids when they come for visits! Seasons. Joyfully accepting the season that is now. It surely makes for smoother, more peacefilled days.
    Susan

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  7. Hi Suzanne,
    Loved your post!! Very true words. I didn't home school my kiddos but was very involved in their school, sports, lessons and just spending time with them. I too love being at home and takin care of it. My children are grown now and I have 4 wonderful grandchildren, which I wish I could spend more time with. As you know, I sew for a living, however I am feeling a bit over burdened by it right now. I have way too many projects for clients and trying to keep up with guild meetings and small group meetings is really hard. I have felt that I needed to do this for my business, but lately I really haven't been enjoying the small groups. Thanks to this post, I have been able to rethink a few things. Thank You!!
    We all need 'our time' and not feel guilty about it, but we also need to prioratize that time so we can enjoy it.
    Well, I could go on and on, but will stop here. :-)
    Love and Hugs,
    Jan

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    1. HI Jan,
      I think when we get over burdened its time to take a step back and reassess. Your smart for realizing that before burnout sets in:-) I would love to see more of your projects:-)
      Love,
      Suzanne

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  8. Bravo for you Suzanne!
    Somehow I missed that you'd moved back here.
    Thanks for putting up the final warning on Blueberry Cottage.

    Laura of Harvest Lane Cottage

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Have yourself a darling day,
Suzanne a.k.a. Not Quite Donna Reed